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Gabriel Resource Manual
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Addressing difficult issues |
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Pastoral planning at the Parish |
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What is Abortion? / How Abortions
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Complications of Abortion for the
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Delayed Complications of Abortion
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General Guidelines for Counseling
Pregnant Minors forced to
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When
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Abortion and Canon Law |
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Rape,
Emergency Contraception and the
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Reconciliation & Healing in our work
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Interpersonal Communication |
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Pastoral planning at the Parish |
By Bishop Joseph A Fiorenza DD
For many
Catholics of the United States, the parish became an intimate part
of their lives, very often the most intimate part of their lives
after the family. After all, it was within the parish context that
so many of us celebrated the most deeply experienced moments of
life: birth and baptism, first communion and confirmation,
engagement and marriage, illness and death.
Nearly 40 years
ago the parish -- and every part of the church -- was catapulted
into an adventure in the Spirit by the Second Vatican Council. It
has been called a new Pentecost, but it has also been like the
experience of Abraham who, called by faith, went forth not knowing
where he was going. Like Abraham, we had left the security of a
familiar home for a Promised Land whose features we could not fully
discern.
Most people
experienced the council as the changes that occurred in parish life,
especially the liturgical renewal. The most notable aspect of
liturgical change was the greater participation of the whole
congregation in worship, and that was representative of a
fundamental shift brought about by Vatican II. Henceforth, not only
were the clergy and religious responsible for the parish as a place
where faith flourishes. All parishioners now shared that
responsibility.
And so we began
the task of creating the structures of participation and
accountability which make the council's vision for parish life a
reality.
At the conclusion
of the Great Jubilee Year 2000, the Holy Father gave a beautiful and
challenging gift to the church with the apostolic letter Novo
Millennio Ineunte (“At the Beginning of the New Millennium”).
Holiness
In the apostolic
letter there is rich material for pastoral planning at both the
Archdiocesan and parish levels. I will draw on the challenges the
pope has put before the church as we reflect on "Renewing
Parishes: Becoming Places Where Faith Flourish…our parishes have
been -- and must remain significant to our people as the places
where our faith, first nourished within the family for most of us,
flourished in a wider community of believers that we call a parish.
At the dawn of
this third millennium, the Holy Father has challenged the church to
what he called "a new impetus in Christian living, making it the
force which inspires our journey of faith." A renewed Christian
living will focus more on a person than a plan, namely, on Jesus
Christ, who continually asks the parish, "Who do you say that I am?"
The answer to that direct question must be more than the
identification of the historical Jesus as the Son of God, but it
must be a faith response which embraces the personal adherence of
each believer to Jesus and all that he revealed. Any specific
pastoral plan, in the pope's view, would be a pastoral
revitalization of proclaiming Jesus Christ and the Gospel values in
a manner in which the parish truly becomes a community of faith. He
offered certain pastoral priorities that should form the plan for
the journey of faith
Training in Holiness
The first
priority is holiness. “Can holiness ever be planned?,” the pope
inquired. Since baptism is an entry into the holiness of the
Trinitarian life of God, it is also the entrance to personal
holiness. At the Easter vigil we ask catechumens, "Do you wish to be
baptized?" The Holy Father suggests that this question really means,
"Do you want to be holy?" The parish that takes this question
seriously will propose to its members a plan which will help them
attain high standards of Christian living. The pope called such a
plan "training in holiness," which should be offered to
everyone and include traditional means as well as new forms of
achieving holiness, but adapted to the circumstances of modern life
Prayer
Training in
holiness would embrace the second priority: prayer. We have to
learn anew the art of praying. Where better than the parish to
learn both personal prayer and liturgical prayer, which is the
summit and source of the church's life? The Holy Father calls for
parishes to be "genuine schools of prayer" in which prayer is
learned as a dialogue of love in which parishioners become wholly
possessed by the Trinitarian love of Father, Son and Holy Spirit.
Opening our hearts to the love of God also opens them to the love of
our sisters and brothers. The pope is insistent that education in
prayer become "in some way a key point of all pastoral planning."
How often is prayer the key point of pastoral planning in parishes
and in Archdioceses? I suspect it would be rare. The Holy Father
had words of praise for parishes in which the laity participate in
morning and evening prayer of the Liturgy of the Hours
Eucharist.
The third
priority is the Sunday Eucharist. It is obvious, he said,
that our principal attention should be given to the liturgy. The
liturgy is not only the summit and source of all the church's
activity, but it is also the principal source which nourishes faith.
The Sunday Eucharist that is celebrated with care and devotion, in
which each minister properly fulfills his or her assigned role and
in which the assembly truly participates is essential to a "truly
informed and consistent Christian life." There is nothing more
effective than a prayerful Sunday Eucharist for nourishing faith and
forming a dynamic parish. In my experience, our best and most
active parishes, where the spirit of communion among parishioners is
a reality, are those with good Sunday liturgies, which, of course,
includes a well-prepared homily. The parishes with good liturgies
are also the parishes with good social services that involve many
parishioners in serving the needs of the poor. In the words of
the Holy Father, the Sunday Eucharist is "the privileged place where
communion is ceaselessly proclaimed and nurtured."
Reconciliation
The next priority
urges pastors to have a "renewed pastoral courage" in
presenting to their people the practice of the sacrament of
reconciliation. The Holy Father insists that we pastors call for a
rediscovery of Christ as mysterium pietatis (the mystery of
compassion), the one in whom God shows us a compassionate heart. The
crisis of the sacrament should not cause us to lack courage,
creativity and perseverance in presenting this sacrament and leading
people to appreciate it. A renewed appreciation of the sacrament
of mercy would result in a renewed parish which brings to us sinners
the forgiving power of God that touches our lives with peace and joy
and will contribute to a growth in faith for one of the most
precious of God's gifts to the church. How often is the
sacrament of penance a subject of pastoral planning, which in new
and creative ways encourages a greater participation in receiving
this sacrament?
Word of God
The primacy of
holiness and prayer, the primacy of the Eucharist and sacramental
confession cannot be achieved without a renewed listening to the
word of God. The Second Vatican Council inspired a greater study and
listening to sacred Scripture. This development needs to be
"consolidated and deepened" on the Archdiocesan as well as the
parish levels. The pope suggests that each parish should make sure
that every family has a Bible.
Evangelization
Following the
study of the word of God is its proclamation, the work of
evangelization, surely a priority for every parish. There are
several good and effective programs of evangelization available
today, and a parish would fail to nourish the faith of its members
if it did not inspire them to a new sense of mission for proclaiming
Christ to others. Christ must be presented with confidence,
"without ever hiding the most radical demands of the Gospel
message," especially to young people, who have demonstrated a desire
to respond with great generosity to the challenges of the jubilee
year. A parish without a pastoral plan of evangelization is not
seriously interested in nourishing an active faith in parishioners.
Communion of Love
The Holy Father
concludes the apostolic letter with a plea that the "communion of
love" be the primary witness in every parish. Pastoral planning, he
said, will necessarily be inspired by the new commandment of love. "To
make the church the home and school of communion" is the great
challenge of the new millennium. Before making any practical plans,
the pope suggests that a "spirituality of communion" be promoted. He
defines this as the "ability to see what is positive in others, to
welcome it and prize it as a gift from God." It also means to know
how to make room for our brothers and sisters, bearing each other's
burdens."
Spirituality of Communion
In the
spirituality of communion all parishioners of varying economic and
social background, including different races, nationalities,
languages and cultures, meet each other as equals and as brothers
and sisters to one another in Christ. In the spirituality of
communion, the many differences among parishioners do not make
any difference at all. All are equal in Christ. All are
sisters and brothers, all are children of God. Many parishes today
have a great diversity of races, nationalities and languages among
parishioners. It requires serious effort and attention to achieve a
"communion of love" among them.
Practical and Concrete Love for All
The spirituality
of communion leads to "a commitment to practical and concrete love
for every human being," which must be evident in "the church's whole
activity and her pastoral planning." Matthew's 25th chapter, in
which we are taught to see Christ in the face of those who are
hungry, thirsty, naked and in prison, is not a simple invitation to
do charitable acts; but the pope said this classical text is "a
page of Christology which sheds a ray of light on the mystery of
Christ. By these words, no less than by the orthodoxy of her
doctrine, the church measures her fidelity as the bride of Christ."
This statement should be attached to the wall of the room where the
parish pastoral council meets.
The Holy Father
calls for a new creativity in pastoral planning so that the "hand
that helps is seen not as a humiliating handout but as a sharing
between brothers and sisters." We must ensure, he said, that in
every parish "the poor feel at home." As a part of the mission of
charity, pastoral planning commits the parish to "respect for the
life of every human being from conception to natural death." The
parish which does not address these social issues in pastoral
planning with proposed steps for action is not serious about faith
leading to good works.
Practical Structure
The parish
pastoral council is a practical structure that flows from the
spirituality of communion. In the pastoral council the pastor and
parishioners engage in a dialogue about all aspects of parish life
and come to workable and fruitful decisions which establish the
mission of the parish and give direction to all its activities. The
pastoral council "must be ever more highly valued," the pope said,
and he encouraged pastors to listen more widely to the entire people
of God. He quotes St. Paulinus of Nola: "Let us listen to what all
the faithful say, because in every one of them the Spirit of God
breathes."
Conclusion
Almost 40 years
after the council, it is a great disappointment that many parishes
still do not have a pastoral council. And some pastoral councils
function poorly or only exist on paper. The same sad neglect can be
said about the lack of parish finance councils. If there is one area
of parish life that every diocese must insist upon, it is that every
parish have a well-functioning pastoral council and a finance
council that truly represent the diversity of parishioners and
reflect on what the pope called “a fruitful dialogue between pastors
and faithful: On the one hand uniting them a priori in all that is
essential and on the other hand leading them to ponder agreement in
matters open to discussion.”
Parishes are
places where faith flourishes when pastors enable parishioners to be
intimately and fully involved in answering the question Jesus posed
long ago, “Who do you say that I am?” Pastoral planning with
parishioners will answer with the words of Peter, “You are the
Christ, the Son of God,” and every aspect of parish activity will in
one way or another proclaim that confession of faith.
For St. Paul,
faith defines what being a Christian means. It is a dynamic reality
that begins with baptism and by grace unfolds as a total openness to
accepting the Gospel. The dynamism of faith directs the believer
toward the proclamation of the Gospel, which must be lived each day
as a witness to the truth of the paschal mystery by which we are
saved (cf. 1 Cor. 15:1-9).
The primary
responsibility of the church is to express faith in Jesus Christ as
Lord and Savior as is done in the Creed each Sunday and then to
express faith in action, which ranges from the celebration of the
liturgy to sheltering the homeless and feeding the hungry. Faith in
action embraces Scripture study clubs as well as defending the
unborn and opposing the death penalty. Faith comes from what is
heard, and what is heard comes by the preaching of Christ (cf. Rom.
10:17), but faith without good works is useless (cf. Jas. 2:17).
Parishes, then,
are communities of faith in Jesus Christ, in which faith is
nourished and strengthened not only through preaching, teaching and
worshiping, but by faith in action, by being doers of the word and
not hears only (cf. Jas. 1:22-25). Pastoral planning that is focused
on faith
Origins Vol. 30:
No. 5 Reprinted by permission
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What is
Abortion? / How Abortions are Done |
Fertility in
Women
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Onset at 10 - 15 yrs and ends 40 - 50 yrs.
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A woman's fertility is periodic: A woman is fertile only 48
hours of each month.
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Fertility is controlled by the hormones Estrogen and
Progesterone.
Normal Pregnancy
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Pregnancy is measured
from Mom's Last Menstrual Period and continues for 40 weeks.
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The first signs of
pregnancy are recognized at 4-5 weeks.
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The baby is fully
developed at 11-12 weeks.
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The baby is viable
outside the womb at 24 weeks.
a)
Contraception as an
abortifacient (1-2 weeks)
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Birth Control Pills
Contain the hormones progesterone and estrogen, these low
dose pills do not prevent ovulation. The egg is fertilized in
the fallopian tube, then hormones cause the uterus lining to
slogh off preventing implantation of the conceptus. Life begins
but is prevented from continuing.
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IUD (Inter Uterine Device)
An IUD is a spiral device of copper or silicon. Its presence
causes an inflammatory response and prevents implantation of
fertilized egg or conceptus.
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The morning after pill
Consists of a high dose of progesterone, which precipitates
exfoliation of the lining of the womb preventing implantation of
the conceptus.
b) Chemical
Abortion (1-8 weeks)
Methotrexate (anti-cancer and rheumatic
drug) and Prostaglandin (smooth muscle contraction) are used. These
drugs are available by prescription only and three doctor visits are
required. The abortion occurs at home. This is a recent innovation.
c) Abortion
Pill - Ru-486 (1-8 weeks)
Ru-486 is an abortion inducing drug.
Prostaglandin, which causes contractions, is taken 5 days later.
Three office visits are required. It has not been shown to be safe
and may require a surgical procedure if it is incomplete.
d) Suction
Aspiration (1-6 weeks)
A hollow tube with a knife like top is
put in the womb. Strong suction tears the baby into pieces. The
pieces are sucked from the mother into a jar for disposal.
e) D
& C Abortion (8-13 weeks) - Dilatation and Curettage
A loop shaped steel knife cuts the baby
away from the wall of the mother's womb and cuts it into pieces. The
pieces are removed by suction into a jar for disposal. This is the
most common of all abortion methods.
f) D
& E Abortion (16-20 weeks) - Dilatation and Evacuation
Specially designed tools are inserted
into the uterus, which dismember the baby's body and crush its
skull. The body parts are removed with forceps. There is strong
evidence the baby experiences pain.
g) Saline
Injection (20-40 weeks)
This method is rarely used today, as the
dead baby cannot be used for medical experimentation. Salt or urea
is used to poison the baby in utero. A strong salt solution is
injected into the sac where the baby lives in the mother's womb. The
baby inhales and swallows this poisonous solution. The baby has
convulsions, internal hemorrhaging and its skin peels off. The baby
dies after 2-24 hours, occasionally much longer. The mother delivers
a dead (or dying) baby within 24-48 hours.
h) D
& X Abortion (20-40 weeks) - Dilatation and Extraction or
Partial-Birth Abortion
The baby's body is delivered breech
(feet, buttocks first). Before the baby's head is delivered, a long
hollow tube is inserted in the base of the scull and the baby's
brain is extracted, this kills the baby and delivery is completed.
The brain tissue is used for medical experimentation in Parkinson's,
Altzheimers and other diseases.
i) Hysterectomy
(premature Caesarian section) (20 + weeks)
The baby is born alive. However, no
attempt is made to sustain its life. The cord is cut and the baby is
set aside to die.
j) Invitro
Fertilization
In fertility problems, genetic studies
and for research the egg (up to 10) is extracted from the woman's
ovary and fertilized in a petri dish with male sperm. The excess
fertilized eggs, not implanted in the mother, are destroyed or
frozen for future use.
k) Selective
Reduction Abortion (20+ weeks)
This occurs where there are multiple
pregnancies, due to the use of fertility drugs or invitro
fertilization, or when one or more of the babies is disabled or
diseased. With the use of ultrasound a needle is inserted in the
baby's heart and a solution of K+ (potassium) is injected which
kills the baby(ies). The dead baby (ies)' remains are delivered with
the births of the other child (ren).
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Complications of Abortion for the
Mother |
- Hemorrhage - most
abortion clinics are not equipped to handle these emergencies.
Death sometimes occurs on the way to the hospital.
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Infection - as with any
surgery, infection can always occur. Abortion clinics are not
regulated as are all other medical facilities and standards are
low. There is no patient follow up.
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Damaged cervix - the cervix
(opening to the womb or uterus) has to be stretched artificially
to access the baby. Often this damages the cervix and results in
later miscarriages of "wanted" children or premature birth.
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Perforation of the uterus ‑
the tools used in an abortion are very sharp and since the
abortionist cannot see inside the womb, sometimes the uterus is
cut.
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Perforation of the bowel or
urinary bladder ‑ as above except that the cut extends
through the uterus wall into the bowel behind or bladder in
front.
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DEATH! due to some
combination of above or an air or fat embolism.
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Delayed Complications of Abortion
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Stillborn & handicapped babies (rare)
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Miscarriages
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Impaired child‑bearing ability
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Premature births
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Low birth weight babies
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Ectopic pregnancies
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Depression, emotional problems (post abortion
syndrome)
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General Guidelines for Counseling
Pregnant Minors forced to
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When counseling a pregnant minor, who feels threatened that she will
be forced to have an abortion, it is important to understand a few
basic rules.
If contacted on the telephone: You may explain to her that
she has a right to refuse to have an abortion, even if she needs to
take what appear to be drastic measures, such as leaving home. Ask
if anyone in her family supports her to decision to remain pregnant:
an aunt, grandmother, older sister, etc… If not, does she have a
friend or a friend’s parents, who would be willing to provide her
with temporary housing and perhaps talk to her parents on her
behalf. Often, parents of a pregnant minor may need time to accept
this new reality. Time and prayer may be enough to soften a parents
resolve to force their daughter to have an abortion.
If a pregnant minor feels immediately threatened, (for
example, the abortion is already scheduled and she knows her parents
will force her to go) She should be counseled to get out of the
house herself. Even if it is only for a short period, she needs
to go to a friend’s house or some place where a counselor can meet
her. At that time the counselor may have her sign a notarized
statement indicating that she does not consent to an abortion. Then,
if she must return to her home, she can call the counselor with the
time and place of the abortion. The counselor can meet her at the
clinic with the sworn affidavit, which should discourage the clinic
from performing the abortion. Under no circumstances will the
counselor or volunteer pick the girl up from her home and take her
away. You could be charged with kidnapping. However, if a minor
has already left home of her own free will and is living on the
street or staying with friends, you may drive her to a doctor
appointment or a women’s shelter. In this case, you are helping a
runaway.
You may, of course, be able to convince the parents and/or the girl
that you would like to talk to her and her parents about the
decision they are about to make. Often, the resistance that parents
show toward talking rationally with their daughter can be
ameliorated when another adult who seems to have information and
evidence steps in.
Obviously, the most desirable outcome in these instances is to
reconcile the family. If this reconciliation occurs, the
follow-up counseling is extremely important for all members of the
family. A priest or deacon should be called for spiritual guidance,
if the parents permit this. In addition, information on procedures
to offer the newborn for adoption should be presented as an option
at this time.
The Gabriel Project has worked with grandmothers whose
granddaughters were being coerced to abort and the grandmother
housed her until the mother’s anger subsided. Also, the parents of
the baby’s father may have pro-life sentiments and want to save the
pregnant minor from a regrettable decision. We have worked with
several mothers of friends, who took a pregnant girl in for a few
months, until she delivered the baby. Again, counseling toward
adoption is extremely important in these instances.
The best preparation for all these situations is daily prayer. With
the grace of the Holy Spirit and knowledge of the law you will be
able to help prevent a pregnant minor from aborting her baby.
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When
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Why is this such a difficult
situation?
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You the volunteer are frightened you
will not be able to prevent Mom from aborting her child.
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You are concerned about your ability
to help Mom do the right thing,
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You want some assurance there is a
way to stop Mom from aborting her child.
The out
come depends on Mom alone. All you can do is help Mom with her
difficulties.
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Ask God to help you. Let Him take
care of you. Forget about yourself. Focus on Mom
and her needs.
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The only person you can help is
Mom. If you help her she may not abort. If she aborts that is
her choice. Remember, she is often being coerced to abort by
the father, her family and friends.
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Does Mom know how far along in her
pregnancy she is? It is very important for her to know. Make
sure she has an appointment to see her doctor for medical care.
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Usually Mom is not thinking
about the baby; her focus is on her difficulties which
are often overwhelming. You must discuss her difficulties with
her, not the baby.
What can you do?
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LISTEN to Mom. Only speak to
encourage her to tell her story. Ask open ended questions
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Tell me more
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You must have been very upset
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Then what happened?
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What do you think will happen?
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Who is there to help you etc.
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Hear all the background. Age,
circumstances of pregnancy, her family, parents, brothers and
sisters, the child’s father, her work, education, hopes for her
future. Make sure to let her know all the ways you can help
her.
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Reach out in love to help her. Your
tone of voice and way of talking to her tell her much more about
you than anything you can say. She will judge whether you are
loving and trustworthy by your attitude and way of behaving
towards her.
What
NOT to do
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Talk only about the baby.
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Give a lecture on the evils of
abortion.
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Criticize her. Argue with
her.
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Let her see or hear about your
difficulties. This is about Mom not you.
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Abortion and Canon Law |
It is commonly thought that the Church excommunicates
people who have procured a successful abortion. In fact, in
probably the majority of cases, mitigating circumstances prevent the
censure of excommunication from being incurred. The tragedy of
abortion triggers distinct and separate questions regarding the
personal responsibility of one who procures a successful abortion:
has a sin been committed? And, has a crime been committed?
A sin is a purposeful and deliberate offense against
the will of God; an utterance, a deed or a willfully-entertained
desire contrary to God’s law. Objectively, abortion is a mortal
sin, gravely contrary to the moral law.
A crime is a violation of a church law or precept
that has been formally established by an ecclesiastical authority
which has legislative power (cf.cc 1311 & 1315). While it might be
surprising to many people, actually very few sins have been
established by the church as also being crimes. But among those few
sins that are crimes, abortion clearly is included (c. 1398)
Going hand-in-glove with crime is the reality of
penalty, which is a sanction established by Church law that may be
applied against a person who commits a crime to motivate that person
to return to the Church’s way of life (cf.c. 1311). According to
the Code of Canon Law, both a person who procures a successful
abortion, incur the automatic (latae sententiae) penalty of
excommunication (cf.cc. 1398; 1329, S2; & 1314). Actually,
excommunication is a censure which should be seen as a medicinal
penalty, meaning that it is intended to foster repentance and
reconciliation (cf.c. 1312, S1, 1°). Thus, excommunication may be
applied only until the offender accepts God’s healing grace and
repents, at which time the excommunication is to be lifted in the
Sacrament of Reconciliation. In other words, the Church has
established excommunication as a penalty in cases of abortion to
give witness to the gravity of the offense not perceived by the
secular society, rather than as a permanent stigma for the offender
to bear.
A few terms deserve explanation. Abortion is the
killing of an embryo or fetus by whatever means, and at whatever
time from the moment of conception to birth. Procure means to
acquire, obtain, induce, or cause directly and intentionally by
means of physical or moral action. Consequently, a person who
actively participates in the abortive act procures the abortion.
Successful means the goal is attained, not simply desired, intended
and/or attempted. Hence, while the desire, intention and/or attempt
of an abortion would be gravely sinful, they do not constitute the
crime of abortion.
So, can we say that all persons who procure a
successful abortion in this strict legal sense are automatically
excommunicated? No, because, just as civil law recognizes
mitigating circumstances that remove or reduce responsibility, so
does Church law. Thus, the following persons are never subject to
any penalty for procuring a successful abortion (cf.c. 1323):
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One who habitually lacks the use of
reason.
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One who has not yet completed the
sixteenth year of age.
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One who without any fault was
unaware of violating a law or precept of the church (even though
aware that abortion is a serious/mortal sin).
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One who acted under compulsion by
physical force or in virtue of a mere accident which could
neither be foreseen nor prevented when foreseen.
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One who acted out of grave fear,
even if only relatively grave (grave fear is an internal
response of a person to the credible threat of serious evil to
be inflicted by another person).
Next, the following persons are not subject to an automatic penalty
for procuring a successful abortion, although a penalty might be
imposed as a result of a church process (cf.c. 1324):
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One with only the imperfect use of
reason.
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One who lacked the use of reason due
to drunkenness or another similar mental disturbance which was
culpable.
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One acting in the serious heat of
passion which did not precede and impede all deliberation of
mind and consent of the will, as long as the passion itself had
not been voluntarily stirred up or fostered.
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A minor who has completed the age of
sixteen years but is not yet eighteen years of age.
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A person who was forced through
grave fear, even if only relatively grave.
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One who without any fault was
unaware that a penalty was attached to the law or precept.
Therefore, for a person to be automatically excommunicated that
person must have procured a successful abortion or have been an
accomplice to a successful abortion and:
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Possess perfect use of reason.
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Been at least 18 years of age.
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Been aware that church law includes
the penalty of excommunication for the crime of abortion (this
is different from simply knowing that abortion is a serious or
mortal sin).
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Been able to exercise his or her
free will and not operating out of grave fear, serious heat of
passion, drunkenness or another similar mental disturbance.
The censure of excommunication can be removed by the
Archdiocesan bishop and those priests who have the faculty to do so
within the diocese, using the formula provided in Appendix 1 to the
Rite of Penance (cf. c. 1354-1357).
Finally, let’s look at what it means to be excommunicated. The
penalty of excommunication forbids a member of the Church (cf.c.
1331):
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To have any ministerial
participation in celebrating the Eucharistic Sacrifice or in any
other ceremonies whatsoever of public worship.
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To celebrate the sacraments and to
receive the sacraments.
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To discharge any ecclesiastical
office, ministry or function whatsoever, or to place any act of
governance.
Please note carefully, however, that an excommunicated person,
although outside the sacramental life of the Church and unable to
exercise authority of ministry within the Church, still remains a
member of the Church, still is a Catholic. Moreover, an
excommunicated person is not prohibited from attending Mass or other
public acts of worship, nor from taking part in private acts of
prayer or devotion. In fact, these should be encouraged so as to
help the excommunicated person to become contrite and to reform his
or her life.
If you have any further questions about abortion and canon law, you
may want to contact a canonist in your diocese.
Post-Abortion Ministry – A Resource Manual for Priests, by
the Secretariat for Priestly Life and Ministry and the Secretariat
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Rape, Emergency Contraception and the
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"Emergency Contraceptives" are multiple-dose oral
contraceptives taken after intercourse. The pills have four possible
mechanisms:
(1)
suppressing ovulation
(2)
altering cervical mucus to hinder the transport of sperm
(3)
slowing the transport of the ovum
(4)
inhibiting implantation of the newly
conceived human embryo
Which
of these mechanisms is operative depends on when the pills are
taken. If taken before ovulation, EC may delay or inhibit ovulation,
thereby preventing conception. If taken after the LH surge which
triggers ovulation, EC will not disrupt ovulation in that cycle, but
can inhibit implantation of the developing embryo, which is an
abortion.
Treatment of Victims of Sexual Assault
Victims of sexual assault should be treated with compassion and
understanding. Health care providers who treat sexual assault
victims should provide medically accurate information and offer
spiritual and psychological support.
A
woman who has been raped should be able to defend herself from a
potential conception and receive treatments to suppress ovulation
and incapacitate sperm. If conception has occurred, however, a
Catholic hospital will not dispense drugs to interfere with
implantation of a newly conceived human.
Hospitals should develop appropriate protocols to determine whether
administering emergency contraception would have an abortifacient
effect. Blood tests to determine progesterone levels and urine tests
to determine whether ovulation has occurred should be done
Laws Mandating the Administration of "Emergency Contraception" To
Rape Victims
The
proposed federal "Compassionate Care for Female Sexual Assault
Survivors Act" (H.R. 4113) and similar legislation in the states
would force
· All
hospitals, even hospitals with pro-life policies, to administer
abortifacient drugs to rape victims.
· Require
hospitals to provide the pills to teenagers who engage in consensual
intercourse in violation of state laws on statutory rape.
· Requires
health care providers to misinform women about how emergency
contraception works, violating norms for informed consent.
Specifically, the bill mandates that hospitals tell the women that
"emergency contraception" is not abortifacient.
Conclusion
The
law should not require hospitals to administer so-called "emergency
contraception" when those drugs will end the life of a newly
conceived human embryo. Hospitals can offer rape victims treatments
that are truly contraceptive and address their other needs with
compassion and respect.
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Reconciliation & Healing in our work
for Life |
Reconciliation and
Healing is at the center of all work for life to bring back order,
peace and fulfillment in Christ to all those caught up in so much
evil, often unknowingly.
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Evangelization |
Bringing Christ to others in
your person.
Helping others in practical and simple ways.
Showing concern for them, not yourself.
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Conversion |
A work of the
Holy Spirit – but we must pray for those we help, place them
in God’s hands and wait for them to respond. Often we will
not see this happen.
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Reconciliation |
Coming to know God is so full of
love for each of us, so full of mercy, Mom is open to
admitting fault on her part and aware of the need for
forgiveness, from others and from God. This is very
difficult needing Faith and overcoming the past.
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Confessing |
The release
from sorrow and burdens, the relief in being back with God
and the Church, the peace which follows confessing one’s
sins cannot be described. Mom is back in the land of the
living.
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Absolution |
The only true
healing with true peace follows absolution.
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Forgiveness |
Only God can
forgive and heal us fully. He will help us to forgive
others if we only ask. Psychotherapy is not a
substitute for reconciliation and healing.
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On God’s Mercy: Encyclical on
God the Father and First Social Encyclical from Our Holy Father John
Paul II
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Revelation of the Father’s mercy in
Christ.
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Jesus preaches the Gospel of mercy.
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God’s mercy already at work in the
history of the people of Israel.
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The true nature of mercy and the
dignity conferred on human beings by God’s merciful love.
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Jesus’ death and resurrection is the
fullest revelation of divine mercy, a mercy stronger than sin
and death.
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Contemporary plight of humanity and
its need for a mercy which goes beyond justice.
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The Church’s program of mercy: Her
duty to proclaim and practice it.
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Everyone to implore God’s mercy on
humanity.
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Interpersonal Communication |
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At the root of all successful communication is treating Mom as you
would wish to be treated yourself. Communication refers to all
meaningful exchanges between Mom and her Angel. It is not just
words, it is the meaning of those words as understood by Mom and her
Angel. Misunderstanding can readily occur. Hence the need for the
Angel to prepare herself, and learn on the job, the art of
communication
We take part in interpersonal communication all
the time, with our families, friends, and colleagues at work. As
caring helpers we must understand that listening is more important
than talking.
Communication can be
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the spoken word
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body posture and gesture
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Voice, tone and inflection
Of these, the most telling is voice tone and
inflection, then body posture and gesture and then the spoken work,
yet we often tend to put more importance on the spoken word.
In a one on one relationship, we continuously
communicate whether we speak or not. The effective Angel must
become aware of the impact her tone of voice, inflection, body
posture and gestures have on Mom. Angels must know how to evaluate
non-verbal communication from Mom to gain a better understanding of
her situation. (For more information see Gabriel Manuel).
Moms need:
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To be dealt with as individuals rather than
as a type, a category or a case.
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To express her feelings and thoughts, both
negative and positive.
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To be accepted as a person of worth, with
innate dignity regardless of the person’s dependency, weakness,
faults or failures.
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A sympathetic understanding of and response
to the feelings and thoughts expressed.
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Not to be condemned for the difficulty in
which Mom finds herself.
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To make her own choices and decisions
concerning her own life. She needs help, not commands.
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To keep confidential information secret. Mom
does not want to exchange her reputation for the help which she
will receive.
A Mom in need wishes, and sometimes desperately
needs, a pleasant and helpful welcome. Mom needs a good listener
who will be understanding, be empathetic, discreet, non-judgmental
and non-patronizing.
Sympathy is required, but over
identification with Mom on the Angels part will do more harm than
good. If the Angel’s problems are too much to the forefront, she
will be unable to help Mom. The Angel must be detached from her own
difficulties so she can concentrate objectively on Mom’s needs.
Remember, we are here to be
faithful to God and to Mom, not to guarantee results. All results
are in God’s loving, merciful and providential hands; the Angel is
His instrument.
Active Listening
Active listening is just that; choosing to listen
and understand what Mom is talking about. The Angel must listen at
a number of levels, to what is being overtly said and to what Mom is
not talking about or dropping hints. Slow down and allow Mom to
express her thoughts and feelings and tell her story. With an
attitude of unconditional love you will listen more effectively and
compassionately.
All too often the Angel feels obliged to come up
with a solution every time Mom mentions a problem. This is not
so. In the initial stages of a visit, it is much more important
listen. Before Mom will hear you and pay attention to your advice,
she needs to know you have heard her and understand her.
Only after you have a thorough understanding of
Mom’s situation can you help her work on solutions.
There
are two ways to Listen Actively: Restatement & Rephrasing
The Active Listener acts as a mirror or sounding
board, reflecting what Mom has said without adding his or her own
perceptions and responses. This part of communicating focuses
on the content of factual information communicated to you by the
Mom.
In Restatement the Angel repeats what the
mom has said almost word for word. This is simple. When used
properly it is very effective in helping Mom discuss her
difficulties.
In Rephrasing the Angel summarizes what
has been said in her own words. This is very helpful if Mom has
given a lot of information or is upset and incoherent. The angel
can help clarify what has been said by paraphrasing the most
important parts of what the mom has expressed.
It is important to use a tentative tone of voice
when restating or rephrasing. This encourages the mom to continue
talking and allows her the freedom to correct any misperceptions of
the volunteer.
Interpretive
Listening
Interpretive listening enables the
angel to understand the thoughts and feelings that underlie Mom’s
statements. This helps Mom to understand and explore what she is
really feeling in a non-threatening environment.
The Angel needs to understand how Mom feels and
thinks about her situation and about all the important people in her
life and other relevant factors. The Angel must
guard against making inaccurate assumptions, and against making
comments or suggestions based on those assumptions. The desire
to understand mom’s feelings demonstrates that we are sincerely
interested in her, not merely in her decision about the baby.
The first step in interpretive listening is
listening for feelings. The angel listens carefully to the mom’s
words, (including voice tone and inflection), and observes body
posture and gestures to gather clues that answer the question of how
she is feeling. Listening for feelings involves trying to identify
what is going on below the surface of the conversation.
Asking Questions
All questions must lead to a better understanding
of Mom. Learn to recognize the different types of questions and
their purpose.
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Close-ended questions are answered
with a yes
or
no. They are very good for obtaining factual
information, but not information on feelings, motivation etc.
However, teenage Moms especially prefer this type of question
because they are easily answered without going into details.
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Why questions allow Mom to talk about
her reasons, including moral reasons, for acting a certain way.
They can also imply judgment. If Mom becomes defensive,
rephrase the question another way: What caused you to…? What
made you decide to…? How did you come to...?
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Rapid-fire are several questions in
one sentence. They confuse Mom and are a poor communication
technique. Never ask more than one question at a time.
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Questions containing the answer are
used to state opinions rather than to gain information.
The angel should never use a question to manipulate Mom
into a preferred response.
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Open Ended Questions: Encourage
Mom to talk about herself. They are based on something the Mom
has said and are used to explore the situation in greater
depth. They also provide a model for solving future problems.
Examples:
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How do you feel about being pregnant?
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What makes you feel that abortion is the
best solution for you?
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What were the circumstances that led up
to his leaving you?
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